Last week Wear Your Voice, an 'intersectional feminist magazine' (really?), published an article titled - wait for it - "If you’re going to date someone, you want to make sure they’re anti-oppression. Here are 10 things you should ask on a first date".
As a queer femme of color, I keep close relationships with people who go beyond allyship; they’re true accomplices in the fight against white supremacy, queerphobia and misogyny. If you’re not going to support marginalized folks, then we can’t be friends, let alone date. The personal is political.
Beyond the lovely cushioning, happiness and support that we receive from our platonic relationships (which are, in all honesty, soul-feeding and essential), feminists also date! But there are questions we have to ask before we get close to someone.
The following list of questions is applicable for all relationships — certainly not just cisgender, heterosexual ones.
There's more at the link.
My own reaction to such nonsense was fairly blunt and down-to-earth, not the sort of thing I could reproduce in a blog I try to keep family-friendly. However, PawPaw, who can be equally blunt and down-to-earth (funny how us old fart veterans seem to think alike!), has penned his own responses to the lady's (?) list of questions. For example:
1. Do you believe that Black Lives Matter? Yeah, like I believe that white lives matter.
2. What are your thoughts on gender and sexual orientation? There are two genders. That is simple biology. Sexual orientation is more complex. Just so we're clear . . . [details omitted].
3. How do you work to dismantle sexism and misogyny in your life? Are you going to pick up the tab? Or do you intend to perpetuate societal conventions?
4. What are your thoughts on sex work? I had to give it up when I turned 40.
Again, more at the link.
Thanks, PawPaw. I needed the laugh!